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I once had an elder in another congregation tell me: “You know you are growing old when you walk into a café and see several widows and realize that they were married to men younger than you.”
This article is not about aging, but it is about coping with the loss of a loved one (friend or relative). It is often difficult when someone near us passes from this life to the next – even if the death is unexpected. However, there are things that we can do when this happens.
First, is pray. Ask God to give you strength to cope. Often, prayer brings strength and a calm during storms of life (Hebrews 4:16).
Second, is take one day at a time. Don’t worry about the future. Instead, set goals to get through each day (Matthew 6:34).
Third, connect with others. It’s OK to set aside some “alone time” but we are social beings. The Lord, himself, said that it’s not good for us to be alone (Genesis 2:18). Visit with friends and family. We need support from others. Talk about the loved one (especially the good times). This is one way to work through your grief. Be sure to come to the worship of the Lord and give encouragement as we receive upbuilding (Hebrews 10:25). Express your feelings and you will find strength in that exercise.
Larry Fitzgerald
Woodlawn church of Christ
Abilene, TX