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In a Bible class that was discussing the topic of homosexuality, a 13-year-old girl asked, “What about someone who really doesn’t want to have those feelings but can’t seem to stop them?” That is such a great question, for there are many who are struggling with homosexual desires but they don’t want to be. How can they stop? What can they do?
First, the first step in stopping sinful desires is to have a desire to stop. The Bible calls that “repentance.” To repent, as defined in the Bible, is to change one’s mind which then leads to a change of conduct. One must truly want to stop sinning, if he is going to overcome the desires and thoughts. Genuine change of life will not follow where genuine change of heart and mind does not first lead.
Second, one must disassociate with friends and acquaintances who do not share the same godly drive. If one truly wants to stop sinful desires but he continues to hang around those who are given to (or approve of) those sinful desires, then those associations will weaken the resolve and eventually quell the determination. Our friends have a tremendous influence on us (1 Cor. 15:33), and some of them will keep us from making meaningful changes in our lives.
Third, deliberately associate with those who do share the same godly drive. As we disassociate with ungodly influences, we must build relationships with faithful Christians, who will help to “sharpen” us as Christians and help us deepen our resolve to live holy lives for God (Prov. 27:17).
Fourth, abstain from tempting situations and people. We all know that we are especially weak and susceptible when we are in certain situations, around certain stimuli. God’s solution is clear-cut, “Abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul” (1 Pet. 2:11). Get away. Stay away.
Fifth, pray about it. The power of prayer is beyond our ability to comprehend. “You do not have because you do not ask” (Jas. 4:2). In detailing the Christian armor, precisely suited to fight the devil and his temptations, the final piece of armor is “praying always” (Eph. 6:18). Ask. Seek. Knock. All the time!
Sixth, write the word of God on your heart. We all need to be able to say, “Your word I have hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You!” (Psa. 119:11). When “the law of his God is in his heart, his steps do not slip” (Psa. 37:31). God’s word has amazing power to work in our lives!
Seventh, remember that being tempted is not a sin. Jesus was tempted but never sinned. Fleshly lusts are hard to overcome, but with God’s help we can resist giving in to those sinful urges. Each victory over temptation will help you to win another victory down the road. Trust in God. Lean on Him!
David Sproule
via Chapman church of Christ
Ripley, MS